I have gone to a few funerals in my day, and have always been the person who was "allowed to leave" when it was over. I never realized before how much work was involved when you lose a loved one. When it's your Mother, you cannot leave....even though you want to go really badly! You have to stay behind and try and figure out what to do next. Which is where I have been for the past 5 days. Making arrangements, setting up food, making nice with family and friends.....and then everyone leaves and you have to do the not so fun part. You have to sort through paperwork, and make heads or tails out of finances, and put the house up for sale in a recessed market, and look at all the "things" in the house and decide what you are going to do with 3 coffee makers. It's not fun, and it's going to take a long time.....and I am not turning down ANY offers of help!