Thursday, June 28, 2007

Hypothetical Question

If someone in your family was dying, and there was talk of a trip before they're gone, would you allow yourself to be guilted into taking said trip on the basis that it's a "dying wish", even though you had no desire to go..?


  • Ask yourself...Is it "really" a "dying wish" or is the person asking just scared of what the future holds no matter how long or short? Could they just want your company, knowing you don't really want to go, but need your company and are afraid to ask. Maybe they know you are the only person that can handle all the small details and offer a hand to hold or a smile to ease, if not for even a second the thoughts of how scared they are. Death puts life in a different perspective, and only those that have been given the news know what it feels like. Never will we know how it feels to be handed that special invitation to prepare to meet our Lord and Savior. While no one can make us do "anything", follow your heart, dig deep inside to try and understand why they might be asking or guilting "you" to go, and why they didn't ask another. While it might not be the trip of a lifetime, it might bring that one last memory that will carry you through the rough times that lay just ahead. Trust Cheryl in yourself, you are a strong women, your preservation and quiet strength, your confidence and belief in others, are a shining light to those that look up to you. During this struggle to maintain what you can of a normal life look to those you have given strength too, to support you. Think not with your brain but with your heart!! I believe in you, and keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8:33 AM  

  • I would definitely go. I would not worry about money or tomorrow. I would live in the moment with them, to gain memories that would sustain me, when my emotional self lost it after they went home (heaven).

    Time Cheryl, Time is all we have to truly give one another.

    Ask questions, tell secrets, imagine what their life was like, share your feelings - no matter how painful and just love.

    By Blogger D, at 9:58 AM  

  • I like the way anonymous put it and I would have to agree. Don't let yourself feel "guilted" into it, but more of that person wanting you to be there to experience it with them and be by their side. Needing someone is the feeling of emptyness, but being needed by someone is the feelings of fullness, warmth and love.

    By Blogger Mic Man, at 11:34 AM  

  • All of you- Thanks. There is no confirmation that the request is from the dying person, it cam from another source.
    Anonymous - Who are you?
    D- It was never about money.
    MicMan - when did you get so dern philosphical?

    By Blogger Cheryl, at 12:56 PM  

  • I would not allow myself to be made to feel in the wrong for choosing not to go. Time spent is time spent, it doesn't matter how or where it is spent. Your time off work and finances are put to better use helping your mom when she needs you most, rather than taking a big trip like that.

    (Not to mention - who wants to bunk with our brother for a week?)

    By Blogger Colleen, at 3:10 PM  

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